Relationships: Questions and more questions
I was chatting with a friend today and we happened to discuss something about the endless pursuit of love by man (and woman). We have our standards per se, but every one of us eventually reaches a certain crossroads where we start evaluating ourselves. Where we evaluate our goals in love; our sights on the opposite sex; and eventually, as we grow older while still being single, we start considering options for the future.
All of us are subject to the laws of the universe, where none want to end up alone. Yes, some of us maybe revel in being alone, but do we really want to die alone? That’s actually looking up too far ahead. For me, it is the immediate future; maybe around the next 6 – 7 years. I keep thinking bout the two girls that came and went in my life. And I keep thinking whether things will workout with the next one, or will we part ways after some period? Yeah, well, I’m still young, and I’ve got my whole life ahead of me. So no need to worry much, right?
Some of us fall head over heels with someone when they possess the Casonovan romantic skills. But then, at one point, there comes a realization as we grow older. Do we want to be in “crazy love” always, or should we move on to the next person who promises stability in out lives? It is not an easy question to answer, since “crazy love” holds varied definitions among us. When you are 20, this question is surely a load of crap. But when you are 24 or 25, you really start thinking.
Surely there are people who can provide both the stability and “crazy love” during the course of a relationship, but the pivotal issue is what ration would satisfy us cravings? Cravings of the heart are not easily measurable.
When I was studying, I didn’t think much of being in a very serious relationship. That is because of all the crazy, stupid, mind-blowing fun I had with the gang. There was no pressing need to be in relationships. If we were in one, we were just in one. If we weren’t, we were still cool with that. Now, I feel that if I am going to be in a relationship, it sure as hell has to be serious; thus making the need to find a partner who shares the same view more important.
I think I’ll just take my life one day at a time, with every day being just as hopeful for a nice future as the other.
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the problem is that we humans tend not to wait for a few years before assessing everythg. If only patience was more evident…
sigh… u sound so emo, kav.
sometimes when i wake up, especially after an afternoon nap, i’ll have this feeling of loneliness for no particular reason. so, i know what ya mean.
relationships are like buses. u wait for it at the stop, & if it’s the right one u just hop on. u don’t wait to assess or ponder. once the bus is gone, u’ll have to walk home. alone.
ya just gotta bite the bullet, & see how it turns out. u don’t wait till there’s no more seats in the bus then deciding to take it.
u’ll know how it turns out after u tried. but of course ya gotta work hard to save it before calling it quits so soon.
p/s: wow, my comment is so loong…
aiyo.. sometimes i will felt lonely le.. damn terrible the feeling.. hahaa.. but come on, its life and why would i want to live a sad life when i can have a happy one? doesnt care if i got gf or not.. kekee all the best
dante: dude, those bus analogies are so fucking true. And I think I am turning emo.
JiNG: ur right, its not good 2b sad; but this thought eventually hits everyone at some point.
You have to participate in it as life is random. There is no way one can predict if it would work or not. BTW, thanks for visiting my blog. I update frequently, so hope to see your profile there again. Cheers.
we seek a partner (bf/gf ; husband/wife etc) for different reasons. some are just like passing clouds. we never seriously intend to be with this person, just for the heck of it. but some are meant for us and we mean things that we say to this person. THAT doesn’t happen all the time. how would we know if he/she is THE ONE? for me, that’s when i can still feel the same for him although years have passed. that’s when i can be myself in his presence - without being worried about his judgement on me
ammu.